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Geekend: Familiar Faces Can Be Friendly (Or Dangerous)
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David Wagner
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David Wagner,
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7/21/2014 | 5:51:04 PM
Re: Friend groups in childhood
@Michelle- Kid friend groups are fascinating aren't they? My daughter just had her birthday party. And part of me was struck by how many children there were that walked and talked and looked jsut like her. There was a point where I went up to girl to tell her to lower her voice and realized just a step away from her that it wasn't my daughter to shush. :)

On the other hand, when they all lined up to do some sort of activity I was happy to see nearly every skin tone and hair color represented. There was one girl who had to be at least 18 inches taller than my daughter despite being the same age. She certainly did attract some girls like her. But she also didn't let that stop her from finding some girls that were as different as possible. It was very gratifying.
David Wagner
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David Wagner,
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7/21/2014 | 5:46:58 PM
Re: look alikes
@SaneIT- Yes, Tinder, specifically, has a reputation that might be a problem. I do think long-term versus short term interests change the equation. And not just in the sense that if you have short term goals you are probably less picky. :) there are probably more genetic pressures on you working in the background.

One thing you bring up here about a diverse group of friends also makes me wonder if this is something we can over ride with time based on the realities of our world. If we live in an ever increasingly diverse world, will the heuristics change because the equation of the way the world works change them? I don't know, but it seems plausible.
David Wagner
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David Wagner,
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7/21/2014 | 5:42:50 PM
Re: Slight Glitch in the Theory
@Lufu- That's awesome. Might I recommend contacts for her? :)

Seriously, obviously we have many examples of wonderful couples who were able to see past the obvious looks issues. It would be fun to see how genetically paired you were on the less obvious features. When the genetics tests get cheaper, maybe we can send out kits to IWeek readers and their spouses to do a bit of testing. :)
David Wagner
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David Wagner,
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7/21/2014 | 5:40:32 PM
Re: The face that somehow I trust
@Rich- Brilliant! You just showed us how to succeed at comments without really trying. :)
David Wagner
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David Wagner,
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7/21/2014 | 5:37:57 PM
Re: look alikes
@JonNLakeland- Definitely, though i don't know if that is nature or nurture. There's a long held theory that we trust and help people who look more like us because it helps us keep our genes alive. The closer related to us someone is, the more we want their genes to live on. It is interesitng though, because clealry our parents nurture us.
Broadway0474
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7/21/2014 | 3:54:21 PM
Re: look alikes
@SaneIT, perhaps you are in the minority here in terms of this clan-ism. Of course a lot of it has to do with where you grow up. I went to school in a diverse public school system outside of a very diverse and large city. I've never none anything but difference, and my groups of friends reflect that. If you grew up in a small town, or a very segregated community, you might not even have the chance to  mix it up.
Michelle
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Michelle,
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7/21/2014 | 12:16:36 PM
Friend groups in childhood
I think this (incomplete) study might give insight to the look alike friend groups seen in middle school children. At least one of my kids has been friends with a group of other kids that shared similar traits like hair color, eye color, skin tone, and even hair length.
SaneIT
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SaneIT,
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7/21/2014 | 7:26:45 AM
Re: look alikes
Using an application like Tinder does seem like a good method since it has the mechanisms built in for matching.  I just wonder if anything changes between those looking for long term relationships vs. flings.  Looking around at my friends I can say that I've got a very diverse group around me.  I guess maybe that feeling that I don't fit into traditional groups is accurate.  I like people for their differences, I don't want to be around people just like me, I want people with different stories to tell, strengths that I don't have and little things that enrich my life.
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LUFU,
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7/19/2014 | 3:34:07 PM
Slight Glitch in the Theory
This helps explain why my wife and I get occasional comments about being an odd couple. I'm of northern European heritage and am 6'2", blue eyes, originally blond, and a noticeable proboscis. My wife is Japanese who is 5'1", dark black hair, brown-almost black eyes, and cute little nose that doesn't hold up eyeglasses.
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soozyg,
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7/18/2014 | 10:31:30 PM
Re: look alikes
And test to see how many people picked similar hair color, eye color, skin tone, etc.

Yes, but that goes back to my statement about dark vs. blond hair. I would not match up with a blond person, because I would pick the dark hair. So, according to the theory, there would be no mutual attraction established.
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