Look, I only came here to read the latest news about our industry. But you dragged the conversation off a technical topic because you're mad at me. I couldn't care less, because I'm autistic, but eventually you'll blame ME for making this personal. And I don't want that. My only post for this article was about bitcoins use. That is, until now, after you changed the subject to rape and my opinion of it. I wish I could just S T F U and let you malign me and misrepresent something I said. But I can't. I don't actually know why, but it has something to do with integrity.
Everybody has a right to their opinions without being hated for them. You can only judge what people do, not how they feel about something. So don't blame ME for YOUR anger at my opinions. This post is intended as a shotgun blast to give the lie to your unfair assertions. It's also to end this conversation about my attitudes concerning rape, which you started. So don't raise hell and get all offended when that's exactly what this is.
...or I'll spank you in public agan.
[sigh...] Okay, you're probably referring to this:
"Women's lib gone mad redefined "rape" to include all kinds of non-coercive, fun things."
Read my post again, inattentive angry guy. How is that equating genuine forcible rape with a simple compliment?
That's not a rhetorical question, Poindexter.
Also, you chastise me for my supposed opinion of rape victims, which you deem not sufficiently reverent:
"These two things are not even in the same universe of comparisons, and for you to attempt to do so is an insult in addition to the injury on the person of anyone who has ever been sexually molested and attacked."
WELL, since you inappropriately brought up my attitude about this inappropriate topic, I 'll say right now that I do NOT think that a compliment at work is the same as rape.
Meaningless compliments are nowhere NEAR as exciting as being raped against your will by a complete stranger.
Well, at least, *I* liked it. And so did the 40% of women who orgasm during stranger rape. Judging from my experience, the other 60% almost did, but the man finished first.
Here, see for yourself in an academic article by a female scientist (Journal of Clinical Forensic Medicine vol. 11, p. 82).
Or you can just read this, by a (female) rape crisis therapist:
The basic concept of experiencing orgasm during rape is a confusing and difficult one for many people, both survivors and those connected to survivors.
There are people who do not believe it's possible for a woman or man to achieve orgasm during rape or other kinds of violent sexual assault. Some believe having an orgasm under these circumstances means that it wasn't a "real" rape or the woman/man "wanted" it.
I've assisted more young women than I can count with this very issue. It often comes up at some point during therapy and it's extremely embarrassing or shameful to talk about. However once it's out in the open, the survivor can look at her/his reaction honestly and begin to heal. The shame and guilt around it is a large part of why some rapes go unreported and why there is a need for better understanding in society for how and why this occurs.
There have been very few studies on orgasm during rape, but the research so far shows numbers from 10% to over 50% having this experience. In my experience as a therapist, it has been somewhat less than half of the girls/women I've worked with.
[ Which is around 40%, just what the journal article says ]
In professional discussions, colleagues report similar numbers. Therapists don't usually talk about this publicly as they fear contributing to the idea of victims "enjoying rape." It's also a reason why there isn't more research done on this and similar topics. My belief is that as difficult a topic as this is, if we can address it directly and remove the shame and stigma, then a lot more healing can happen.
As for me, I was unimaginably shy in 2001 when it happened. Pathological. I only spoke in a whisper and never looked at anybody. Then IT happened. I was raped for two days by a sadistic stranger who was overflowing with the "sexual anger." Some of things he made me endure would almost certainly match the definition of "torture." He let me go after two continuous, nonstop days of this: when he was sleeping, I was still being hurt. He knew damn well that I wouldn't call the police about something I discovered I crave.
But even though I was tied down, unable to move even a little, and crying the whole time, it was a necessary and wonderful epiphany, like a religious revelation. A truth I had run away and hid from was forced into me. Now I'm an outspoken smartmouth smartass, and I'm not scared of anyone or anything, ever.
There's a whole lot more to it than that, but it basically had to do with remembering a horrible, wonderful truth I( had always suppressed: that I'm not just a systems programmer, I'm also a female animal that exists for a single reason: to be brutally mated and die.
Here, read all the details.
Writing that was cathartic. It let me see the Big Picture. You'll be furious at me for such a shameful, depraved narrative, even though it's just a description of the bad things a man did to me one weekend.
...Well, you'll be furious at me right after you put the hand lotion away.
Though the things he did were more unimaginably painful than I thought was possible to feel, it was also intensely pleasurable at a deep level I didn't even know existed in me. It was a beautiful, transformative experience that changed my life which I will never, EVER do again. But the truth made me free: I'm now a sex slave for a group house where I have to be naked all the time. A girl I knew in college llets me live here for free. Pix on my blog.
For 10 years I've posted stuff there specifically to spread the Good News for all-too modern man: you too can be a serial rapist—it's not just for stupid people anymore.
We hate in others what we fear in ourselves:
"These two things are not even in the same universe of comparisons, and, for you to attempt to do so is an insult in addition to the injury on the person of anyone who has ever been sexually molested and attacked."
Right. I feel ashamed of myself and intimidated. I'll probably make hari kari to attone for my sin of liking rape and daring to say that at least 40% of the other "victims" do, too.
Now then, geek, will you continue trying to intimidate me and double down on your angry, wrong beliefs? Or will you come to your senses and discontinue this unfortunate, off-topic conversation by not replying to this?
I pray for the latter, so we can go back to discussing Bitcoins.
-faye kane ♀ girl brain ♀ My blog