Re: no stigma to having a family
@Ashu001: I appreciate your perspective and applaud it. However, I do think there needs to be a national discussion that addresses both the cultural and legal issues around paternity leave. right now, according to federal law one is entitled to 12 weeks of Family Medical Leave above and beyond one's accrued vacation or sick time. However, that leave is unpaid leave. I agree in theory a Dad could save up all his vacation and personal days and, in most companies, manage at least 2-4 weeks off, but any more time than that would fall under the Famiy Medical Leave Act and would be unpaid time. Under that act, the company is required to keep "a" job for you, but doesn't have to guarantee that you get back the exact job that you left when you took the time This law applies equally to men & women, while individual companies will set their own maternity/paternity policies. IMHO men and women should have equal time off from their places of work, but most policies allow more time for Moms than Dads. Ant that's not even getting into the social stigma and career risks. Again in theory it's true that a Dad should put family first, but sometimes putting family first means making sure that you are earning enough to support them. Lots of gray areas IMHO.